Believing in one's self takes a conscious effort. It is a
decisive act. Many a time we inertly seek acknowledgement from others before we
acknowledge ourselves. Belief in one’s self does not mean "to take pride
in yourself". It is not being boastful but about having confidence
in one’s self; being able to encourage yourself especially when nobody
does.
Majority of us as humans have innate fears that nobody
else may know about besides us. Sometimes as a result of a low self-esteem,
some feel bad about their looks, others their gait, some are uncomfortable with
the way they talk – all sorts of things. For such people, they need to build
confidence in themselves. Concentrate
and commend yourself about other things about yourself that you like. Confident
people have developed a habit of focusing on their strengths rather than on their
weaknesses.
When one is confident, he or she is able to face the
world with boldness and openness, enabling one give his/her best to the world.
In life, we will come across people who are prettier, smarter and more gifted
than we are. The worst thing you can do is to start comparing yourself with
them. I for one have a “beautiful” husky voice as a woman; believe me, it took
me a long time to come to appreciate it as being beautiful. Before now, I had
spent a lot of years lamenting over the fact that I didn't have a “tiny – winny”
voice like most ladies, but right now, a lot of people more often than not
compliment me on having a lovely voice.
At one point or another in our lives, we all have things
we are dealing with. Even those you think are fearless and very bold probably
have to deal with issues like aggression or rudeness and stuff like that. The
point is no one individual is all together perfect in him or herself: we are
all dealing with something at one point or the other of our lives. By boldly
verbalizing declarations such as “I will not yield to fear” (if you suffer from
fear for instance) consistently, will enable you to live above it. Fear is one
crippling factor of self-confidence; so many people, who would have been great
in their life time, live in obscurity, their talents remain unexpressed as a
result of fear, judgement or criticism.
Unless one makes a conscious decision to confront fear,
he or she will never live free of it. Be encouraged and stir up the spirit of
boldness that the Almighty has placed within you, that can spur you to greater
heights; You never can tell what you will become tomorrow when you take a step
of faith in the right direction. Too often we fail in our efforts because we
have conditioned ourselves to thinking that we might not make it or get it
right. Those who succeed in life are people who dare to look past their
shortcomings and mistakes in life to believe in themselves. You have great
potentials lying within you that are in need of your attention. Simply do the
best you can with what you have or where you are right now, having faith that
you will get to where you desire to get to; and soon you will.
Unfortunately, most people make the mistake of focusing
on what they lack or have lost rather than what they've got working for them;
of what good is that to anyone? Drop the “what ifs” and “if only” and like a
stallion, “get up and get going!” Stop making excuses like, “I would have been
a popular singer if only I had a beautiful voice.” Or “I would have been a millionaire,
if only I had gone through the school.” Donald Trump, a popular billionaire
wrote in one of his books, “…most times, it isn't the most brilliant or
smartest ones that make the most money…” To add to that, Bill Gates wasn't the
brightest in class in his time but today, he is known over the globe for his
invention and wealth. Thomas Edison failed
well over a seven hundred times trying to produce the light bulb we all use
today. What is common with all these people is that they believed in themselves
and never gave up despite the obvious challenges and discouragements. They didn't let that get the better of them. They were all go getters so they excelled.
There are countless numbers of people still succeeding today in their chosen
fields of endeavor; the question is what are you doing about your own dreams?
You really need to get going my friend. Step out of your
comfort zone by believing in yourself first. Like the laser beam or an intense
ray of light, focus on what God has put on your inside. Refuse to give in to
fear, doubt or discouragement. Have the right attitude and don’t quit. Shelve
negative comments from people, but seek constructive criticisms. No matter how
many times you fail trying, like Thomas Edison say to yourself, “… I've only
learnt ways not to go about it.” In essence, every failure is a step towards
the right direction. It’s never over until YOU say so! See you at the top
An article by Dr. Stephanie OARHE.
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God bless you for this powerful inspiration this morning am blessed .thank you
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